Clear thinking requires deep listening. When we listen deeply to one another, our minds achieve what brain scientists call “neural resonance,” an enhanced state of mental attunement in which physical properties of our brains actually mirror one another at the neuronal level. This neuronal mirroring, according to many cognitive scientists, increases our intelligence, problem solving, and sense of well being – even during conflict and difficult conversations when we need these qualities most. The better we listen, the more neurologically enhancing and emotionally relaxing we become. So, how do we attain this state of neural attunement with its many attendant brain benefits? Before answering, let’s first examine the ways we fail to achieve attunement with others. In other words, what we do when we…